I'm so thankful for the many times I was emotionally rescued by these surrogate mothers in my life also known as my friends, my sisters, my aunties, my co-workers, my son's friend's moms, my friend's moms, and at the top of that list...my mom . Women who had no obligation to my healing. They simply were expressing their mother-nature, an extremely challenging emotion to avoid. It's like an impulse...much like child birth when it comes time for a woman to push, it is an impulse that women cannot stop themselves. It just happens. There are no questions of weather she wants to push, she just needs to...impulse. The impulse to mother weather a woman has physically given birth or not is simply an additional sense...touch, smell, taste, hear, see, nurture...I believe it is the sense that makes a woman.
So imagine that extra sense in action when a woman does become a mother. When the universe bestows on her a child(ren). The sense of nurture becomes the dominant sense to the fives senses which are now tools used to strengthen or sharpen the nurturing of a child. Making sure that all spaces the child comes in contact with is safe to touch, smell, taste, hear and see...making sure to keep the child away from anything that could adversely affect the "sub-senses".
In my space of thankfulness...I acknowledge myself for showing up when it was super challenging but knowing that my heart was full of love and nurture for my son. I chose not to stop. I chose to nurture and him and shield him from the negativity that he has touched, smelled, tasted, heard and seen. I, his mother, chose to be just that...his mother and boy am I blessed because although it has been 16 plus years, I am still amazed that I was the one chosen to raise him, I was the one chosen to guide him, I was the one chosen to love him, I was the one chosen to be his mother. In that acknowledgement, I also know that in choosing to mother him, I must also remember to allow myself to be mothered...to allow someone else to use their sixth sense to help me heal and be my strongest self so that I can be the best mom to my boy.
Ashe...Happy Mother's Day!
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