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THE LONGEST JOURNEY

 The longest distance in the world is from the head to the heart

The head lays out the plan. Making sure to breakdown every detail of every detail of every detail.  The heart on the other takes that idea and confirms the awesomeness of the plan and tells you to GO FOR IT! 

Here is the problem, at least for me;  I get a plan in my head...I get excited about it in my heart...I go back to my head and make this idea so incredibly big and unattainable that all of a sudden I feel foolish for thinking I could make this plan happen.   I mean seriously...What was I thinking?  Then my heart breaks under the weight of the deferred/missed potential.  I am amazed that I've realized any plans/ideas/dreams with this haphazard dance.  It's like walking to the edge of a diving board that you've jumped, flipped, dove off a million times, bouncing just enough to test it's buoyancy, then someone (you) says that it is way too impossible for you to jump off this board.  Didn't you just see all those other people who were much more qualified, had better agility do amazing dives? So you do the sensible thing, ignoring the urging in your heart, and walk away.

Another little ditty i read~
"As long as we maintain a rational perspective on our personal condition, we will remain stuck. In psychological jargon, this is called "isolating". It means walling off an emotionally charged situation and thinking, rather than feeling, it through. No emotion, no investment - no investment, no movement. It's really pretty simple stuff."

So as I think about those moments when I find myself staring into the water at the edge of a board, I guess my conversation in my head is - pause - think - and then listen to your heart.  Doing this exercise has helped me pave a more defined road which leads from my head to my heart.  Because it is an exercise, I don't/won't beat myself up if it takes multiple attempts to take that leap and dive in.  
What do you guys think?  Do you have this same challenge?

thanks for reading...the entry brought to you by the head meets heart experience.


Comments

  1. UnknownFebruary 27, 2014 at 8:09 PM

    So feel you on this one! One thing a day...

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    1. MothersMilkWorldFebruary 28, 2014 at 11:36 PM

      You inspired the one thing a day. That concept really works. That one thing is something.

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